Don't let anything surprise you. Stoics say: don't just wait for it to rain at any moment. Also hope that they will betray you, that they will disappoint you, that there will be bad people, thieves, humiliations, greed, evil, envy, cruelty ... One stops being so angry when reconciling with the fact that life is very difficult! The wise person, the Stoics affirm, is one who manages to make nothing lose his tranquility of spirit, his mental and emotional peace. Humanity, says Seneca, is strengthened when faced with challenges, even if they are imaginary. “There are more things that scare us than things that can really destroy us. We suffer more with imagination than in reality. "
If you face something concrete that overwhelms you, you can do a pre-mortem. What is it? Simply ask yourself, "What's the worst that can happen to me? ». So you will be prepared. Daniel Coyle, journalist and writer, explains that this is one of the strategies that the American special forces use today when preparing for dangerous missions: “They spend an entire morning reviewing every error or disaster that could occur during the mission. They ruthlessly examine every possible mistake and relate it to an appropriate reaction: "If the helicopter crashes to the ground, we will do X. If they pick us up from the wrong place, we will do Y. If they outnumber us, we will do Z."