«The good life is one that is inspired by love and guided by knowledge.»
Bertrand Russell
Listen to the other: «If I had to summarize forty-three years of research in one sentence it would be this:" When something hurts, love, the world stops and I listen to you "».
Practice with John Gottman the ability to listen well to your partner: Focus on being interested, not on being interesting.
- Start by asking questions.
- Find things in common.
- Give your full attention.
- Show that you are attentive with a gesture, a sound.
- Repeat some of the things your partner says (he will feel heard).
- Show respect for what your partner says (do not tell him, "This is nonsense", "is
- Show respect for what your partner says (don't tell him, "this is silly," "it's true," "but what do you say" ...).
- Look him in the eye.
- Forget your schedule.
- Turn off the electronic screens.